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Patience Is a Virtue but Perserverance Is Key

Two years.

That’s how long it’s taken me to find a job here in Paris.  

Or rather, that’s how long it’s taken for a French company (largely international ones!) to break out of the norm and hire someone who is coming back from a “career break” and isn’t “courant”. 

They’re scared. Narrow minded. Afraid of change. They’re learning.

Two years to the very day, of living in Paris I signed. 

Two years.

Last night I celebrated with the recruitment team who have stood by me and never lost faith in me. I’m beyond grateful to Laurent Aumage and the team at Anson McCade, UK, who kept putting me forward and pushing me (and decision makers) to finally succeed.

Two years.

I hope my story can lesson the emotional burden for all the “career break” mums out there who are struggling to get back to work. Struggling intrinsically, the most difficult struggle of all. 

At your darkest times, when you feel like all hope is lost and your confidence is diminished to a tiny fleck of that brilliant woman you used to be – that is the time you dig your deepest. You dig so deep it hurts, it’s painful. Muscle up the courage to continue, so that black hole cannot, will not swallow you. 

Never stop your search.

Never give up on yourself. There’s too many other people out there to do that for you. 

Believe.  

Yes it’s hard, yes you fall off the search wagon, yes you will doubt everything you’ve ever done or achieved. You may even feel like a fraud. 

You’re not. You’re a warrior with nerves of steal and vivaciousness of fire. 

When your just about to the throw in the towel, and your burning the last straw, you’ll get a call and Just.Like.That. your are hired.

There will be someone out there who sees your brilliance, sees your relevance and isn’t afraid of your “gap”. For every 10 narrow sighted people, you will find that 1 person who says “Yes, we want you”! And you will start to breathe again.

However long it takes you, and in whatever emotional state you find yourself in (too many in my experience) try to keep this little cliche in the back of your mind and pop-it out whenever you start to feel low, “patience really is a virtue” BUT perserverance is what makes the difference. Whatever happens. Never give up!

Until that job comes through, keep your focus, find your fulfilment in your daily life, and lastly enjoy your child/children because in your near future, you’ll be back at work and remembering how lucky you were to have that time with your babies. 

I start Monday, 12 June with Renault Digital.

It took two years but damn those two little words are going to stand out on my CV.

Photo credit: giphy. Merryl, you own it girl.

p.s. my last post was July 2016. Honestly, I felt I had nothing of importance to say. Keeping afloat of everyday life and the job search has taken every bit of my energy.  Moving forward I’m confident there will be an abundance of material to keep my blogging alive. 

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How Our Children Behave Is Our Responsibility

Thank you to whomever produced this image and text (it’s not mine). The words are so profound and powerful it’s important to share.

We sometimes fall off the bike when it comes to leading by example … in my case, I’ve cracked a few helmets BUT remember parents out there, it’s never too late to get back on track.

Our little ones are like sponges. So innocent until we make them otherwise. We are their Google. We are their Encyclopaedia Britannica (or in my experience Funk & Wagnalls!).

My son has behaving out of character the last few days. He’s been a right little s#!t … and I’ve realised it’s my fault. I’ve been emotionally out of whack. A downright negative nancy. No one likes negative nancy, she’s boring AF.

Now, I’ve got good reasons to be feeling a little blue but my little boy doesn’t understand that. He just wants to play with his cars (on the TV) eat play doh and draw on the parquetry. All normal activities for a toddler 😩 😂

Last night I read a great article about how our kids behaviour can reflect the parents/carers emotions. I was riddled with guilt. So.Much.Guilt. I wonder how many parents are walking around carrying a fricktonne of guilt for the things they’ve done (big or small) to their offspring?! Parent’s do not despair, we are all in the same dinghy.

My husband and I are constantly reading about child psychology yet it’s so easy to forget and make the mistake. Just not good enough. It’s my job to keep this kid emotionally stable. So girlfriend harden the fritz and sauce up and get better at it. Childhood is not a dry run for adulthood. What you do to your kids now will affect them for the rest of their lives.

Yes, I know, we’re all human and prone to making mistakes and yes our goal is to learn from them and move forward. So. My message to myself and all the other parentals out there;

Do the best you can. Then do it better. Don’t give up. Love and nurture the bejesus out of your kid(s), furbabies, whatever.

How our children behave is our responsibility. Never forget that. I know I won’t.


Because parenthood.

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